"we must face our own ugliness. we often must become painfully aware of the unworkability of a pattern before we are willing to give it up. it often seems, in fact, that our lives get worse rather than better when we begin to work deeply on ourselves. life does not actually get worse; it is just that we feel our own .... more because we are no longer anesthetized by unconsciousness." ...from m. williamson
but there is something beautiful in the humanity of our "ugliness" and our awareness of that ugly/beauty.